As our children go back to school, I think about what my relationship will be like with the teacher. My oldest child is at a new school. No relationships are formed. The teachers have no preconceived notions. They don’t know my son. We don’t know which teachers are a great match for my son. This makes me feel happy and nervous. For the last 6 years, the teachers knew my son or me. They knew he had some “issues.” I advocated each and every year for what my son needed. In the last 6 years I never had a problem communicating and advocating. How, you ask? No matter how emotional I got, I always treated the teacher with respect and appreciation. I gave the teacher the benefit of the doubt. I never tried to do their job. Being this way pays dividends later! To me, managing the relationship between yourself and the teacher is like dancing. Ideally, you and the teacher are on the same “dance floor” moving towards the same goals and communicating in a fluid way. Don’t ruin the dance by “stepping on the teacher’s toes.” They may not want to dance with you again.
Katherine Price coaches parents on everything from behavior modification plans to IEP goals. She helps DC area parents get the ADHD help and resources they need by guiding them through the options available to them, connecting with the right people, and making a workable, affordable plan for the whole family. For more information about ADHDC, go to www.ADHDC.com.